Where Freelance Writing Began For Me…
Written by Michele T on November 12, 2007 – 8:51 pm -By
Julia recently left a comment that prompted this post. She said:
“Any tips for getting those articles sold? Let us know what you’re doing to be soooooooo successful! (Please!)”
So that you can better understand how I arrived where I’m at today in my writing adventures, I’m going to share where this freelance journey began for me.
In the next part of this “mini series”, I’ll try to give a few tips as to how you can find at least as much success as I have found (which isn’t all that great compared to MOST freelance writers!)
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In 2005, my Mom saw an ad in the local newspaper for a writer’s meeting. “You’re going to this meeting, Michele!” She said.
“But Mom, I can’t go to that meeting! I’m not ready to write!” I whined.
“You’re going and that’s that!” She said. If you knew my Mom, you’d know she meant it (can you tell she was right?)
You see, I hesitated in even leaving the house. I hesitated in trying to follow my oh-so-faded dream of being a real writer. I had given up hope of writing. Ever.
After barely surviving domestic violence, I had neurological problems that stemmed from all the times my head was bashed into walls and beams. I couldn’t remember half of my childhood or what happened the day before, much less English grammar’s ins and outs.
Excruciating pain from the injured discs and vertebrae in my back and neck left me in agonizing pain that is simply indescribable. My nights were tortured with nightmares and my days were taunted with bad memories.
“You’ll never amount to anything.” I could hear my ex put me down. He really wasn’t there, but the psychological damage was etched deep into my brain and soul.
I ballooned up to near 300 pounds. Rheumatoid arthritis, fibromyalgia, debilitating migraines, anxiety attacks… These were but a few of the illnesses that plagued me day in and day out. My hand and eye coordination and dexterity had failed me. I couldn’t hold a glass anymore. I couldn’t hold anything, much less a pen. My body was slowly shutting down until I woke up one morning and couldn’t get out of bed at all. That’s right. I couldn’t do anything. My Mother took care of me, nursed me… The whole works. She never gave up on me. Not once! (Thank God for an awesome Mom!)
But I gave up on myself. How on earth was I going to write when I couldn’t use my hands? Sure, I had kept diaries most of my life. But write? Now? Attend a real writer’s meeting? Nah. But I went. (By the time I attended that first meeting, I’d lost 100 pounds and some of the horrid health issues had improved.)
That day, the president surprised us with a little pop writing assignment. She asked us to write about an experience we’d had that we originally never thought we’d be glad we had. One that we could honestly say, I’m glad I went through this. She also asked us to share what we took away from that event.
I was so scared to share my heart, my raw emotions, with these people I didn’t know. When it came my turn to read what I had written, I looked up after I finished reading my last sentence and there were tears welled up in every person’s eyes. I had touched their hearts with my words. I was stunned at the reaction.
“Where have you been keeping all your writing?” An older lady said.
“In my desk drawers at home.” I answered.
“Well, you need to dig those manuscripts out and start submitting! Do you think editors and publishers are going to come knocking at your door asking for your work?” She scolded me. “And before you ever submit, I’m going to tell you it will probably be rejected. Now, you listen. You had better get use it. You’ll be rejected countless times in your writing career. It’s just part of being a writer. The sooner you learn to accept rejection and move on, the sooner you’ll find success.”
Very wise advice. And, I have followed it.
Between that lady and my Mom encouraging me, I began to write, write, write, and submit, submit, submit.
I am going to pass on that elder writer’s advice: “Accept rejection and move on.” But I’m also going to add my own little piece of advice. Write from your heart. Shake that feeling we all battle that you can’t be vulnerable, that you can’t share your heart, your fears, your mistakes, your battles, with your readers. Be yourself. Be real. Some reader somewhere will relate. And another. And another. And another. Open your heart so you can touch someone else’s. It works!
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To be continued….
Tips, markets, and advice are coming soon. Dream big and don’t forget to come back!
Copyright © 2007-2008 Writing the Cyber Highway Freelance Writer, Michele L. Tune
Tags: freelance writing, Inspiration, Writing, writing tips
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November 13th, 2007 at 2:05 am
What a wonderful, inspirational blog about how you finally began to believe in yourself, Michele. You overcame a great deal, and became the writer you always wanted to be. Congratulations, and blessings for much more success in your adventure as a writer.
A great, touching piece. I loved reading it.
Renie
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November 13th, 2007 at 2:48 am
Thanks, Renie! Sometimes it just doesn’t seem real when I realize how very far I’ve come. I pray my book blesses not only multitudes of writers someday, but just anyone that has struggled with weight or illness, domestic violence or self-esteem issues, any challenges…
You are a great inspiration, too, and I thank you for being my great mentor and blogger buddy ;0)
Smiles,
Michele
Glad you enjoyed a peek into my heart.
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November 13th, 2007 at 3:11 am
Oh, it’s been my pleasure to be your friend. And blogging buddy as well.
Hugs,
Renie
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November 13th, 2007 at 4:04 am
Thanks! I feel blessed ;0)
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November 13th, 2007 at 4:57 am
I’m looking forward to reading more, Michele. You’re a truly remarkable woman and it is wonderful to be able to follow your journey.
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November 13th, 2007 at 5:03 am
Thank you, Rebecca! I feel honored ;0)
I plan on finishing my book about my journey someday. It’s on the back burner right now (aren’t our books always?)
I don’t think there’s such a huge market for it so I more than likely will resort to self-publishing (I know, I know.) But it’s my dream and I will accomplish it one way or another
Oh, I’m nothing remarkable–just very blessed…
Smiles,
Michele
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November 13th, 2007 at 5:39 am
Alright Michele,
If I could create an award for the first person to actually make me physically cry, it goes to you!! Thank you!! What a beautiful post, and I can’t wait to read the rest!! You truly are awesome!!
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November 13th, 2007 at 5:44 am
Wow, Grandy, I’m so touched by your comment.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Smiles,
Michele
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November 13th, 2007 at 5:55 am
You are so very welcome!! I know how difficult it can be to open up like that. I’ll be back to support the subsequent chapters as well.
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November 13th, 2007 at 1:00 pm
Hi Michele,
Yep, 20 years of therapy and I still can’t hug my DH when he walks in the door. Abuse does that to you. My jaw is crooked from it being broken when my EX hit me when I wouldn’t sleep with his mistress. Oh – and when I accused him of it i was accused of being a sociopathic liar – boy – do I know the drill.
Our successes are small. Always baby steps. And we’re not very trusting. But – we’re kinder, less judgemental, and value life in a way few can understand.
Keep writing! – You have a gift and a story to tell.
Thank you.
blessings,
julia
julia ward – a BLINDING heart – a writer’s blog – http://www.ablindingheart.com
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November 13th, 2007 at 3:25 pm
Hi Julia,
I’m sorry you had to endure all that ;’(
You’re right, though, we are less judgmental and kinder, aren’t we? I have more compassion and empathy than I ever thought I’d have and I’ve always felt other people’s pain–even before what I went through.
Thank you for your encouragement. I appreciate it! You have a story to tell too–lots of them I’m sure! You keep writing as well. We’re all going to get our stories out there ;0)
Smiles,
Michele
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November 13th, 2007 at 4:09 pm
A very inpirational post today. I am sorry for the things you had to go through. I too have had bad experiences in my life, but years later I’ve written about them “From the Heart,” and had them published. Keep on writing, Michele. I alway enjoy visiting with you and almost always learn something.
Blessings,
Mary
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November 13th, 2007 at 4:15 pm
Hi Mary,
Thank you for your kind words. You always leave such heartfelt comments and I truly appreciate them ;0)
I think through our pain, as we speak from our heart, not only do we touch our readers and in a sense bring a little healing their way it’s healing to us as well.
Smiles,
Michele
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November 13th, 2007 at 6:07 pm
I enjoyed reading this – and I’m glad that you have finally overcame abuse – many women never do. Either they die or they suffer a lifetime of physical and/or emotional/psychological disabilities.
I think that there is a huge market for your work, as many women would rather listen to the one who has been there and survived than to a counselor – although I would recommend both. Whatever works… even if it works only for a few.
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November 13th, 2007 at 6:16 pm
Thank you for your heartfelt comment, Deborah. Yes, I’ve come a long way. Sometimes I’m amazed at how far, actually.
I’ve found so much healing through my writing! I pray others can find healing through my words. I so wish women (and men that are actually abused–this happens) would understand that they are worth something and don’t deserve that treatment. If they would only realize that we only get one body, one mind, one chance at living a long, healthy life–before it’s too late…
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November 13th, 2007 at 10:33 pm
What a strong story, Michele! You have much to be proud of, surviving all of that. Great kudos to your mother.
I have also had my share of heartache and abuse and I agree with you, writing is the best therapy. And knowing that you are helping others in the same shoes makes it all worth it.
I left a comment for you about where to find info on Constant Content on my blog after your comment about the AC discussion.
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November 13th, 2007 at 10:43 pm
Hi Denise,
Thanks so much for stopping by and for the beautiful comment. I sincerely appreciate it ;0)
Yes, I have much to be thankful for and am so blessed to have my Mother. I’d never have made it without her. She’s my rock!
*Going over to check out info on CC*
Smiles,
Michele
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November 14th, 2007 at 10:27 am
Michele,
As anspiring writer it’s nice to have encouragement. You’re my selection today for Beauty …on the weblog. You were nominated by a fellow blogger fan!
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November 15th, 2007 at 10:46 pm
Michele,
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I knew there was something special about you. Truly you are an inspiration to us all…
God bless you!
Lisa
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November 16th, 2007 at 1:53 am
Hi Lisa,
Thank you for your kind words–they have warmed my heart!
I appreciate you stopping by and leaving such a sweet comment ;0)
Smiles,
Michele
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November 16th, 2007 at 10:23 am
Michele,
You have an inspiring story to tell that only you can tell in such a touching way.
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November 16th, 2007 at 2:49 pm
Lillie,
Thank you so much for your heartfelt comment. I really appreciate it
Smiles,
Michele
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November 17th, 2007 at 10:51 am
Bravo, Michele!
Keep up the good work! Your mom is certainly a blessing!
Take care!
Jeanne
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November 17th, 2007 at 2:58 pm
Hi Jeanne,
Thanks for stopping by. Yes, my mom is a blessing–actually, she’s my miracle
Smiles,
Michele
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January 18th, 2008 at 10:17 pm
Michele,
You are an inspiration. I’m so sorry for all that you have been through. I admire your strength to overcome the horrible abuse as well as the physical and psychological problems that resulted. Thank you for sharing your story for it is a story of hope and inspiration.
Smiling right back at you, my friend,
Tina
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January 18th, 2008 at 10:37 pm
Thank you, Tina!
For a while now, it’s been my greatest heart’s desire to be an encouragement and inspiration not only to other writers but to people in general, people that are hurting, discouraged, living in abusive situations, people that feel hopeless…
I’m glad you were blessed by my story. That was my goal in sharing my heart.
Smiles,
Michele
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July 20th, 2008 at 1:38 am
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December 3rd, 2008 at 8:00 pm
Michele, that’s a wonderful story. I can’t wait to read the rest of the installments! Thanks for sharing it with us.
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December 3rd, 2008 at 8:00 pm
Michele,
What a compelling story. Your will and dedication are only surpassed by your courage.
Absolutely inspiring.
George
Tumblemooses last blog post..Write, write, rewrite
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December 3rd, 2008 at 8:13 pm
Julie, thank you for reading and commenting on Writing the Cyber Highway! You’re welcome here anytime!
*smiles*
Michele
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December 3rd, 2008 at 8:15 pm
George,
I’m glad you were inspired by my story.
I appreciate your kind words very much!
*smiles*
Michele
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