By

Michele L. Tune

I’m curious… I’ve sometimes lost track of which gig I applied for and I’m left wondering exactly what ad I even responded to when the person replies. Has this happened to you? I’ve started pasting the ad I’m applying for at the bottom of the email. I think this is helpful because it will not only refresh MY memory when the person responds, but it will help them know which ad I answered, and will help them know which website gave them the best responses/results.

So, do you paste in the freelance gig you’re applying for? Have you ever even considered it? Do you track them in Excel, a notebook, or…?? Share your freelance wisdom with us!

By

Michele L. Tune

Rebecca Laffar-Smith just shared her long road to writing with us. Since I read her story, I’ve been reflecting on my own. I’ve mentioned before I need to stop pulling the reins on myself so I can go to the next level in my freelance writing business. So, why do I feel I’m still holding myself back? Why do I feel I could have already acccomplished so much more? Am I just too hard on myself? Do I expect too much of myself? Or, am I truly – without even realizing it – allowing my past to keep me from stepping into a future I desire with all my heart? Am I locking myself out of my own future?

Just as Rebecca shared that she drifted to and away from her writing dreams, my own writing has drifted to and fro throughout the years. I’ve always been a writer – even if I was just jotting down what happened on any given day in my journal, or pouring my heart onto a loose piece of paper in the form of poetry. I’m a writer. It’s who I’ve been since I was a little girl; it’s who I’ll always be.

Maybe you’re feeling the same way I am. Maybe, just maybe, you even feel like I’ve written this very post just for you. And, you might be right. (I’m a firm believer that stuff always happens for a reason.) I’m inspired to write this post, to share my heart, my fears, my struggles with you because I want anyone who comes to read this blog to know they aren’t alone.

Some things I’ve struggled with as a freelance writer and blogger are:

• maintaining a lot of confidence
• selling my writing and blogging services
• overcoming my hermit tendencies
• finding the courage to approach the publications/people that intimidate me
• overwhelming myself with too many resolutions

You might find it odd that I feel this way - or that I’d spill the beans about it for a gazillion eyes to read. I have wondered why I feel this way as I contemplate my future with words. My conclusion? It’s a lot harder than I thought it would be to move forward in life after escaping domestic violence. Bruises from the physical abuse fade in no time, but the bruises from the verbal abuse are etched deep in the heart, mind, and soul of the victim.

Off the topic of writing:

If you’re prone to saying things you don’t mean in the heat of the moment, find a way to change yourself. Your hurtful words can’t be erased. They’ll stick with that person forever. Think about that.

So, what am I doing to stop reflecting on the past so my writing can take me where I want to go?

Here’s a few things I’ve been doing:

• take risks like hitting send for a query to that high-paying market
• polishing my queries so they portray me in a positive light
• trying to find ways to come out of my hermit shell
• focusing on short-term goals (you’ll notice I didn’t share a resolutions post this year)
• unlocking the door to my destiny

I’m not sure where this writing road will take me. What I do know is that the journey will only be all it was meant to be if I’m forging ahead in confidence, and not glancing over my shoulder allowing my past to direct my footsteps…

At the end of Rebecca’s guest post, she asked us what our long road to writing was. Today I’d love to know where your writing road is going to take you. Will you travel it with your eyes on the future? Have you already been doing that? Or, like me, have you struggled with your past tugging at you all along the way? Share your writing journey in the comments!

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The following post is brought to us by the talented Rebecca Laffar-Smith, from Writer’s Round About. I’m quite honored to have her make a guest appearance on the cyber highway! I’ve followed Rebecca’s writings and freelance life since she started her blog on Blogger. She’s since moved it to its current self-hosted WordPress home with a fantabulous new design. Her posts only get better, her words more inspiring. I’m sure you’ll relate to her writing journey she’s sharing with us today, so give her a big ole welcome and don’t be shy!

Rebecca’s Long Road to Writing

By

Rebecca Laffar-Smith

Writing began as a dream when I was very young. I remember writing a story when I was six, and I knew that I was destined to do this, forever. When the other kids were wishing to be firemen, I was a writer. They grew to want to be doctors, or lawyers, but I was a writer.

I was a writer through grade school. I was a writer through high school. In fact, I was so much a writer I didn’t think I needed school at all.

In ninth grade I shared my latest and greatest story with my English teacher. She took the story but I never heard her feedback in regards to it. What I did hear, loud and clear, was the big fat F on my report card a short time later. English had been my favorite subject. I was committed, dedicated, and worked hard to absorb all I could.

When I failed English that year I felt shattered. I questioned my dream. I wondered if I were fooling myself. Was I a writer? I couldn’t even pass high school English. How could I expect myself to build a career with language.

Even failing that class couldn’t stop me from putting words on the page. I wrote onward, dropped out of school, lost my interest in education and turned my back on the world. Words were my hermitage and eventually, words were my salvation.

Years later, having written in a closet for a handful of years I came into the online world. I’d no longer been chasing the dream of a career in writing. I’d slipped into motherhood, a wife, a friend. The passion for language never faded and as I grew online the words sprung forth. Creation sprung forth and my chase began again in earnest.

It’s been a hard road already. Every writer faces the bumps along their route. We each come to the page with our own fears and judgment. We each bring our past before our eyes when we write. We push away the doubting ‘others’, all those who thought us foolish, failed us without giving us a chance, or laughed at our attempts.

As writers we push onward because the words never fade. They’ll sit in the background while you ignore them but they’ll be there, waiting for you to take up your pen or take to the keyboard.

What was your long road to writing?

Rebecca Laffar-Smith is a freelance writer, editor, and web tech. Her blog, The Writer’s Round-About discusses various aspects of online freelance business. Subscribe to The Writer’s Round-About via RSS or email!

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